This article is phenomenal as it succinctly and clearly lays out the pros and cons of participating actively in the students' extracurricular activities and also the impact that it has on the teacher-student relationship. We as teachers want to have a rapport with our students that creates a classroom environment conducive to learning but we need to ensure we understand the delicate balance that must be adhered to.
When I was teaching, I would always keep the following saying in my mind: People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. I have taught with teachers like what Rita is describing. As Rita quickly rebutted, this is quite the oxymoron as you need to have a love of children and have a genuine interest in their welfare in order to be the most effective educator possible. I do believe you will take a lot away from this video.
When I began teaching, many teachers would advise that I needed to start the year off firm and if everything was flowing well after a while, I could gradually ease up. They did not, however, in this discussion teach me how to gain rapport with the students. Am I their friend or enemy or just something in between? This discussion between teachers will be great to view as it delves into this thought and takes thoughts of other teachers who have the same questions.
When I was teaching in the middle and high schools, I would have the students to complete a learning and interest inventory. Why you may ask? I am glad to tell you. In order to ensure that my teaching is relevant and meaningful, I needed to simultaneously incorporate some of their interests into the lesson plans. This gains their attention and gives them a better opportunity to be academically successful. This administrative feedback gives additional strategies for inclusion.
I completely agree with this image. As a new teacher, you are walking a high and tight rope to ensure that you are being an effective educator but also not being too friendly with the students. So does that mean you have to be, well, mean? Not at all. It does take time to gain rapport and the students have to feel safe and comfortable around you but once this delicate balance is met, that's when the magic happens.